Is Your BFF MIA? Believe Me…. It's AOK

In elementary school a best friend was the one who stood by your side when others were bullying on the playground, or shared their peanut butter and jelly sandwich so you wouldn't have to eat the meatloaf  your mom packed. 


There were the party hearty pals picked up in college when a favorite friend was the one who kept you from calling your main crush and looking like a fool , made sure you got home safely from a wild evening or held your hair as you made friends with the "porcelain god."

 If children graced your life, choices for companions were other parents through school or organized sports,  sometimes producing a special confidante to tie up the phone for hours, commiserating in the pursuit of happiness, or lack thereof. 

 A shoulder to cry on, a person who was in your corner, a bff was always there when you needed them. But what happens when you no longer resonate with your bosom buddy?

My favorite cohort and I used to gossip about other people, making fun of their……just fill in the blank, we  found the humor in everything. But one day I realized how mean spirited it was and didn't want to engage anymore. My constant companion was very frustrated with me, claiming I was no longer "fun to be around." By me changing, the dynamic of the relationship altered as well. 

As more and more people begin to expand their consciousness, they may start to see close relationships become more distant since they no longer have much in common.  This happens not only in the activities you do together, but is evident in subjects you're interested in and discuss, what you put in your body, outlook on life and your attitude towards others. A myriad of things begin to shift when you open to a widened energetic field. But that's ok. You don't have to suddenly cut off all your old friendships, most likely they will take a natural course and adjust or even fade away.

 My advice has always been to allow it to play out. Sometimes those close to you see the changes you've adopted and begin to make the same transformation. And if they don't, just know they will find their own path in their own time.

In the meantime, look in the mirror to see if you like that person for a new best friend until another shows up. Because miraculously, since like attracts like, new people will come into your life who are drawn to the current attitude and beliefs you carry and will be a perfect match.

Becky Arrington guides individuals and businesses to discover their purpose and live authentically. Whether you’re a company looking for innovative ways to lead and engage employees or an individual trying to prioritize, reduce stress or decide what you want to be when you grow up, learning to accept and thrive in change is key.


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